There are so many stress management strategies, some effective and some not. The effectiveness is due to the technique itself or the compatibility with you as an individual. Either way there is a deeper level you can delve self-controlinto and come out of with a real sense of control and calmness, even in the face of your biggest stress. There is a core foundation to lay and with the right knowledge and building the right skills you will have the strength to not just overcome stress but to prevent it from arising. Developing self control is vital in life and to learn to use it in a variety of ways will enrich your life at it’s very foundation.

Build a meaningful foundation

Building a foundation of strength and thoughtfulness will project outwards into every part of your life. You will be enriched and enlivened; problems you didn’t relate to stress will vanish. You can use stress management strategies to a much more effective degree. You will be working for yourself in a much more efficient manner and the doors of opportunity will open for you.

Adapting to your new skill-set

To achieve this we must adapt a new skill-set. The first step is to understand what you tell yourself your mind and body follow. It is amazing what neuroscience is uncovering. When we think we are about to eat a meal our blood sugar lowers, our stomach prepares and our metabolism picks up. Whether or not we eat the body still follows the mind. We can use this concept and all those like it to our greatest benefit.

When we tell ourselves we are going to be stressed by an event and that event happens sure enough we feel the stress response. We program into our mind what we want to have happen. Just think about it; people respond to events differently. One many become stressed, frightened, happy, etc when an event happens. They are choosing how they react to it. No one can upset us without out our permission.

A stress response example

Imagine a room full people at a party having a good time and all the sudden a clown walks in. Some people are excited because they love clowns. Another may become stressed because he thinks the circus is overwhelming. Others are afraid because they had a bad experience and always told themselves that clowns are scary. They are all right and their feelings are all valid. Sure some of this is predetermined by personality but most of it is from what we have conditioned ourselves to believe with the words we speak to ourselves.

Listen to your subconscious

The subconscious is always listening to what we say, the body is as well. What we tell ourselves affects us emotionally, physically, and mentally. What we think about on a daily basis comes from the beliefs we have built in life. We build beliefs by thinking in certain ways and perceiving the world with our unique touch. Your body and mind are always listening for your instructions. You have the choice to be who you want to be. To start building a stronger self control we must enter into new habits with our internal and external dialog. This is the key first step and we will discuss this and the steps that follow it in much more depth in the upcoming articles.